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Dealing With Relationship Insecurity | 10 Tips To Handle Insecurity

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Breakup Like A Man: http://www.iamalpham.com/index.php/topics/how-to-break-up-dating-advice/ Alpha M. Confidence Course: http://aaronmarino.com/confidence-course/ Subscribe To Alpha M. https://www.youtube.com/user/AlphaMconsulting?sub_confirmation=1 My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services and Products: http://www.aaronmarino.com Alpha M. App: http://www.alphamapp.com/ My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services: http://www.aaronmarino.com Free Hairstyle E-Book: http://http://www.iamalpham.com/ezine Best Hair Product: http://www.peteandpedro.com FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/IAmAlphaM In this video men's style, grooming, fitness, relationship and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com http://www.aaronmarino.com http://www.peteandpedro.com, shares with you 10 tips for dealing with relationship insecurity. Relationships are hard enough without being super paranoid all the time. These 10 tips will help you handle your insecurity and allow you to focus on the amazing and beautiful person you have fallen in love with. Don't let your insecurities sabotage a good thing. Insecurities. We all have them whether physical, finances, material, or other. Regardless, nothing can kill a potentially great situation than relationship insecurity. We all have insecurities but managing them is a key component for a happy, healthy, and successful relationship. Aaron Marino of alpha m. presents ten tips to overcome relationship insecurity. 1. Don't judge your current relationship based on past relationship - don't make the current pay for the deeds of the past. 2. Don't confusion imagination with reality - don't read into everything. The best way to squash this is to encourage open and honest conversations from the beginning, when things are 'good'. Don't let your mind play tricks on you! 3. Stop trying to mind read 4. Once you ask, don't keep asking! - once you're there, the relationship is over from the persistent pestering. 5. Your relationship needs room to breathe - if you are constantly standing over top of the relationship, you'll smother it. You need to have your own things going on including outside interests and friends. You are individuals that came together. 6. Relationships aren't always roses and puppies - the new relationship is like walking on air. It doesn't last, however. You can't maintain that level of emotional intensity. You'll have ebbs and flows. Don't bail on the 1st sign of trouble! Keep nurturing and working, and it'll work itself out if it's supposed to. 7. Do not snoop! - if you reach that point, you'll never stop because you'll never trust them! You can misread something and turn it into a situation. 8. Go with your gut (instincts) 9. You are responsible for your happiness and only your happiness. 10. Relationships are supposed to feel good where you feel better when you're with this person.
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Simran Shome (18 hours ago)
I m always insecure that he will cheat me but I know he loves me vryyy much but i can't get over my mind ??😢😢😢
Jharna Singh (1 day ago)
Thnks for such amazing tips.. 😃
Aj Simon (3 days ago)
Out of all your videos this one helped the most 🙌🏿 thank you man
Patrick Bytyqi (4 days ago)
I used to be a shy / awkward guy growing up and now I feel uncomfortable when I'm with someone and there is silence also I always have a feeling that I should be the one doing all the talking otherwise the other person is gonna get bored and they won't like my company. This exact thing is happening to me right now with my girlfriend, we've been together for 3 months now and the first 2 months it was great but now sometimes I seem to run out of topics to talk about and seem to bore her so I get the feeling that she would rather be with a guy who is funny and makes her laugh and she is kinda avoiding me and this drives me nuts. Idk what to do, how does one stop being boring ?
Marios Quinn (4 days ago)
omg i did some of this stuff and i hear this from u that it destroyed it a bit and i didnt know so thanks ill never do this stuff again
Leena Ewan (4 days ago)
Dude are YOU okay?? Lol
Rebecca Bryant (5 days ago)
I trust my boyfriend more than anything but is it understandable for me to get upset if he tells me he has a habit of looking at other women's body parts and I know it can be a guy thing but he said it's a habit he can't stop? I'm not gonna leave him but him saying that stuff makes me feel insecure, we've talked about it and he told me he would stop doing it I just have to trust him that he won't do it anymore. I just don't see how it's a habit he can't stop
Umar Chaudhary (7 days ago)
Oh Alpha where would i be without you !!!
Vedant Patel (11 days ago)
True
Vanessa Jay (11 days ago)
Thanks!!
Christian (11 days ago)
PLEASE READ AND HELP ME PLEASE ANYONE!! Ok ok ok. I feel you. I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years. Everything started out great as normal, but then about 1 1/2 years in, things stared to change, my girlfriend starting getting really insecure about me, she always though I was looking for others and yeah there were times I was a douche bag, but then I came reality and changed my ways, and everything was great again! It was refreshing seeing how she came up to my level and I came down to hers. But then, things started to go bad again. Idk if I was too nice and I have no idea what made her do this, but she went to a party. And I was ok with it, and she drank (which she told me) and I was also kind of worried because she's in college, and I know what happens when college kids start drinking. But she told me and I was alright. What happened the next week is I went through her phone... I found videos of her taking shots and drinking more than she told me too. And that crushed me! Not that she drank but that she lied!! Idk why, why did she do that? She said she didn't want me to be upset, but even when I confronted her about it SHE STILL LIED! We eventually moved on, but there still had been times since then when I caught her in lies, but they aren't huge lies. I'm fully confident that she has never cheated on me. like I truly do love her, and I really think she loves me, it's just my insecurities now are ruining us! I want to change so bad, but it's hard! Any tips?? She says she just wants some trust, and she swears in the Bible that she'll never cheat on me and she'll be honest. I believe that we can fix it though... it all starts with rebuilding trust. But how?? PLEASE HELP, how can I fix it?? Is there hope?
RhinoFreak (10 days ago)
I'm lowkey in the same boat. I 100% believe my girl and I know she's not and won't cheat. But she too lies about some little things here and there and hides her online friends almost? I don't know why but it's killing me too, because I don't get it.
maria pascarelli (13 days ago)
It's hard not to think any man is not the same from the next , I'm to scared to open my heart. So I push men away
jacqueline valois (13 days ago)
Men say to be secure as a way to gaalight women into ignoring all the red flags.
jacqueline valois (13 days ago)
There are narcissist douches/b.o.w. everywhere. Shallow, materialistic...karma is a bitch.
jacqueline valois (13 days ago)
Most think with their small heads, not the big one (brain)
jacqueline valois (13 days ago)
Ppl in their 20s. Gas light. Google it
jacqueline valois (13 days ago)
*gas light.
cadyn cordell (15 days ago)
Never thought a video could help me so much
DJ Tru Luv (15 days ago)
You made so many good points its unbelieveable
virgO corp izzy_Oggy (15 days ago)
You hair on the right side is longer than the left side
BaKeDzOmBie25 (15 days ago)
Great vid but, I don’t know I still feel insecure like why did she choose me like why me I’m not like these other guys I just want to feel different I love her but I’m scared that one day I’ll find out I was right about her 😞😭
lucky 1992 (17 days ago)
Wish i would've watched this about 2hrs sooner before fucking things up with ex.
Elijah Ragland (18 days ago)
i judged this book by its cover. by his face and demeanor i thought i was about to listen to 7 mins of douchbag advice.
madammoiselle laura (18 days ago)
thank God i found you :)
BunnyKillas (19 days ago)
Broooo I have all of this OMGGGGG I am so thankful that my girlfriend didn't gave up on me this why i love my girlfriend Soo much
Ran Dhie (19 days ago)
Its very helpful..thanks man
Larry Duncan (20 days ago)
"You are responsible for your happiness and only your happiness." I disagree with this, when you are in a relationship you are responsible for a good bit of your SO's happiness, now that doesn't mean you should be trying to make him/her happy in an unnatural way all the time but you should make an effort now and then, it's just that it should be important to you if he/she and the relationship itself is important to you. You shouldn't have to try to make your SO happy all the time for the relationship to work though, it should come more naturally more often than not, but all I'm trying to say is that you should both be responsible for and care about each others happiness to at least some degree, and not just about your own, to do otherwise is overly self centered.
Kai Merra (20 days ago)
"Your relationship is going to go It's going to ebb Is going to flow Is gonna to have highs Is gonna to have lows It's going to have allllright." OMG who else needs a trap beat remix to this??
Kai Merra (20 days ago)
The idea is you don't just ball at the first sign of treble XD
Kai Merra (21 days ago)
Just give them good sex, whatever you're into. Nah tho. This was honestly enlightening. Thank You
Sushan Dongol (23 days ago)
it didnt helped me😭😭😭
Kucharz Rzemiosła (23 days ago)
(sorry for bad english) So I had my first girlfriend, as I had very low self-esteem, I was also very indecure. Even tho I really tried to trust her as much as I could, I just couldn't. She was whole time meeting new guys on internet, speaking about them, later she even got tinder "for fun". Always when I said it really hurts, all she said "calm down, dont crap urself" which well... Wasn't helping me too much. After 9months of relationship I decided to break, she begged me for 3 hours to not break...(i broke with her anyway, cuz she isn't a person that changes for someone) The story is veeeery longer, but what I want to say is that, if you love your partner and you know he is insecure : talk with them, say them how super they are, why you love them etc, this would really help them.
Adib Ahmed (23 days ago)
Should've seen this before fcking things up. 😅
Josh Owens (24 days ago)
Is it bad if I like get really defensive whenever other guys are around, like I would be willing to kill someone if they tried to talk to my girl
Kurt Harmse (26 days ago)
Thanks a lot for this video.. It is very helpful
TheJblover612 (26 days ago)
I do all 10... this was extremely eye opening. Thank you for being the biggest blessing/ eye opener I need!!! Honestly this is great, thank you very much. 😊
Third Echelon (27 days ago)
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trevor henchey (29 days ago)
My fiance of 4 years just left me and now looking at this video I can see why I feel like a P.O.S and I can see why she left me but it hurts so much
theblaze Within (1 month ago)
I’m glad I watched this video before it’s to late so I can improve myself
Leonard Choo (1 month ago)
How do you find good the balance between being responsible for my happiness and making my partner feel happy? Because you know, when we love someone we do things to make them happy too. I'm not sure what's okay and what's not okay/
Vineeth VR (1 month ago)
valid points👏
Nani (1 month ago)
I have found my people. I feel your pain, everyone.
Jan G. (1 month ago)
Nice one dude.
Han Manse (1 month ago)
thanks man , it help!👌
YouTubeLee (1 month ago)
You are the goat
This hoes ain't loyal
Rem uel (1 month ago)
I badly needed that tip number 3 😭
Nik Yabo (1 month ago)
Well fuck. I have Alpha Traits.. But..not perfect. How come I feel insecure. Thank you Alpha M for the perfect video.
GlintPhantom (1 month ago)
[Sharing my story] (sorry for the massive paragraph / short essay!) For two weeks at the time of writing, I went through really digging into myself and realized the core of a lot of my issues were various insecurities. I suffered from both friendship insecurity (how I was perceiving my friends caring about me or spending time with me and etc) and my relationship insecurity (I'm still a virgin and had not actually experienced things yet). The thing I did to help with the friendship insecurity was that I just slowed things down a bit and didn't dive in sharing. I kept telling myself it's okay to hold off on sharing heavy moments. Take my time. As for relationship insecurity. This took a while. I had to find my silver lining and it help me realize the insecurity I had was not as big as I thought it was.I still haven't found my silver lining with my friendship insecurity, but I got time. From my experience it really is true that what I worry about only becomes less significant when there's something more important you can compare it too. So for those going through insecurity moments, find something that's your silver lining and helps you!
Wutaii1 Nostalgia (1 month ago)
My Friend you age well like fine wine .
CHREW (1 month ago)
Thanks Aaron!!! I didn't think a video could make me feel better but you sure are magic
Ruth Fiona (1 month ago)
I love this! I have had this problem with my boyfriend and most of the tips apply so hopefully I've got there in the nick of time. You make it so lighthearted and simple it gives everyone hope <3 Thank you :)
Masroor Badshah (1 month ago)
Thank u for feeling me so good💖 i have all 10 problems😓Now i have to fix them.. Thanks man🤩
Jasbir Singh (1 month ago)
Insecurity is really my problem.. 😞
Jasbir Singh (1 month ago)
I HAVE STARTED SNOOPING... THOU I KNOW IT IS BAD.. FUCKIN BAD... 😞😞
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Sam Touch (1 month ago)
I snooped Into my gf phone and found out she was fuking another guy..
Mayank Jain (1 month ago)
Lovee you mahnn... I had the same questions.. and i am all good now.. Thankyou mahnn
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Wish I would have known this a month ago....
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Nick Vernon (1 month ago)
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john acabado (1 month ago)
This is the reason of our breakup. Why didn't I watched this before. 😭
Ali Haider (1 month ago)
"Or whatever you're into"
BlizzardBogotá 96 (1 month ago)
I will make this clear. I am a young adult woman, never had a boyfriend in my life, and I got extremely insecure when I cared about my childhood friend-crush. Long story short. It didn't work out, he ghosted me. Which it is okay. He is living his life and I am living mine. But he made me care about him...once again, and a piece of me wished we worked it out. Lately, I had to tell myself, "I fell in love with the kid, but I don't know him as a man." That's the honest truth. I don't know him anymore, yet my heart yearns for him. Somehow these videos are extremely helpful to see the guy's point-of-view. These videos are also therapeutic. With that being said, I will continue watching these videos until I gain my mental freedom. Aaron, I want to say, "Thank you." For this channel and opening up these vulnerable topics. And to my friend, take care, Anthony.
Atif Khan (1 month ago)
I think I’m a new person now
Andro mcclintock (1 month ago)
i just need to trust there is no relationship if there is no trust
Benjamin Greenway (1 month ago)
Praying and this alpha m video has made me a new man. Thank you Alpha. Thank you.
neworleans 1990 (1 month ago)
Jealousy killed my previous relationship it was for a petty reason stupid reason tbh
LS Fanatic (1 month ago)
Wish I found this before I fucked it up lol
sixflagsfan 4life (1 month ago)
Is it bad when your gf takes picture with your friend but now u and always that one friend ?
Irene (1 month ago)
My fiancé and I use each other's phones and computers all the time, tends to be we pick up whichever gadget is handy to look up info on the web. This works because we know each other's friends, neither of us has anything to hide and we fully trust and tell each other everything, yet we're resepectful of each other's right to have private conversations with friends and family. Conversely, I think it's pretty suspicious if someone doesn't let their phone or laptop out of their sight and flips out if you go near it.
Rijob Mhd (1 month ago)
Aaron... thank you... but I need to ask you something real important...? What if the person is actually going behind your back and doing stuff...? What if all the doubts that we have is TRUE..? Then we’ll be wasting time while allowing the person to exploit you and finally hurt you... am I right...?
Amanda Perez (1 month ago)
I love his charisma! Enjoyed watching this, he is so funny and wise. May Jesus Christ bless him and keep using him to help us :)
Andrew Cruz (1 month ago)
Is it normal to get jealous easily , if a girl you like who likes you back. Has Snapchat contacts like "My Sweet Prince" and "Cute Boy " saved on her phone even tho any if them aren't her boyfriend? I need a little enlightenment
Longwee (2 months ago)
You know, these tips sound simple and work really great but not everybody understand the great meaning behind each tips . Just want to share this thought:)
Carolin Schäfer (2 months ago)
Tip No 9: THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH! Don't get me wrong, but sooooooo many men search for their luck in their (female) partners! Just DON'T! That's unhealthy and gives away a responsibility you, and ONLY you, have to fulfill! Find your own luck, because your partner only can make you happier, but not happy.
Narc. (2 months ago)
fuck, i failed #1 smh
Reepz fpv (2 months ago)
Probably one of your best videos! Lots of helpful points and tips that I needed to hear. Thanks again for the videos
Neil 15 (2 months ago)
Wow, this made my day. I just had a crappy and toxic day and it was super awkward when my ex-crush and I were grouped in class. But this one, this changed the tide. Now I feel like I can go back out there with a brave face. Awesome vid +alpham
Fu William (2 months ago)
Yep. He is god damn right!
RotaryBeast24 (2 months ago)
This video legit helped me so much, this has made me feel great about myself aswell as all of your other video’s, thankyou for being the support and holding the knowledge to help me through my insecure, sad little life
Summat Wrong (2 months ago)
God I wish I'd seen this video half a year ago
Andes (2 months ago)
things ive learned to make a relationship be perfect is, good communication, trust, similar comfort levels, and enjoying each others company... relationship anxiety is 100% normal and every relationship has its ups, downs, and loops
Nate Byars (2 months ago)
I can read minds and will prove it. I know what your thinking right now. You're thinking I can't read minds! Thanks for the video really can relate to someone who is honest like you.
Nikola Peric (2 months ago)
Deep breath helped me ☺️
Trol (2 months ago)
I’ve screwed up my relationship with my ex by being to insecure. She called me out on it saying I’m not good enough and not manly enough, shit. I couldn’t trust her because she lied to me badly at the start of the relationship.
Trol (19 days ago)
Winchestah thank u so much mate. The other day she reached out and contacted me and she asked if we could be friends and I said yes. Then one of her male friends who is a big headed twat. Believe it or not his bio on instagram is “not to be rude but you don’t mess with a rugby dude” I know how fucking cringy. He contacted me saying stop messaging jemma (my ex) or I’ll come and sort u out. So I txt jemma saying wtf is going on. The dude (cringy one) somehow knew some really private shit about me that only jemma would know about so I went ape shit with er saying why have u told everyone about this? This cunt gets pissy at me and calls me pathetic for starting beef with her. No way is that pathetic at all she is the asshole for sharing that info with everyone! Can’t believe her honestly. So I called her a fake cunt who dosen’t take responsibility for her actions and she told me to grow the fuck up and blocked me. So overall she is a fucking bitch who manipulated me and made me feel shit about my appearance (because I’m 5”7) and made me feel like a little boy, when actually I’m not and I know I’m not. And she tells her friends fake shit about me so they start to view me as this “pathetic boy”, it’s a joke I did so much for her :(
Winchestah (20 days ago)
Um, dude. The relationship started on lies. It's not your fault. Type in "it's not your fault good will hunting" into youtube and watch that clip. There's no way a relationship started on lies (her fault) had a chance of succeeding. Also you don't want a dumb cunt who emasculates you like that. Get a kind, caring empathetic sweet feminine female.
Ashish Sharma (2 months ago)
Thank-you 💛
Jacob Bell (2 months ago)
Hey man do you have audio files?
Doi Bing (2 months ago)
6:07 Too late and extremely accurate.
New America Tow Guy (2 months ago)
I wasted 10 years with my ex... started dating another woman and guess what... 2 months into our relationship she pulled the same shit my ex did. Cheating, lying, and mental and emotional abuse.
steve leon (2 months ago)
Man u are the best.. tq for tips
ycfu enriv (2 months ago)
I snooped and got my feelings hurt ):
Warfire (2 months ago)
I’m definitely the over thinking type, paranoid non stop. Got into a relationship that I’m shit scared of fucking up, and this video really helped and calmed me down. Definitely a good video.
Joey Angel (2 months ago)
im crying so much after watching this
Sugerlump 36 (2 months ago)
2:10 too late buddy ... too late I have that every time I call a friend or text them and if they don't put an emoji In I'm like " AAAAAA I DID SOMETHING TO ANNOY THIS PERSON DX" me every time;-;
KeyshonTv (2 months ago)
im goin crazy rn
danoisyboy (2 months ago)
Mate I juststarted a new relationship and I tust her 150% but cuz my ex treated me like crap I doubtedmy feelings for even though I know I love her but this vid has made me get over those feelings and go from being happy to spectacular so thanm you so so much mate best content maker ever !!!!!!
Pov Sunby (2 months ago)
What if I already started doing the Snooping?😅
MikeyButane (2 months ago)
I want to share this list with my partner in my current relationship. I want him to know that I'm working on my issues (by following advice such as yours). I have a strong need to let him know what I'm working on. My instinct is to start changing my thoughts and actions, and not tell him that I'm working on it. Should I shut up and try on the advice? If I share the list you offer (with him) am I risking shining a glaring spotlight on my insecurities?
Roflawlsauce Yo (2 months ago)
You’re so right dude! Everything you said just turned back on me, I know I have insecurities I wish I didnt and from the things you said I’ve already made mistakes but I’ll be damned if I don’t turn it around. Thank you a ton
TheOtherSide (2 months ago)
I'm bad at socializing...
Oscar Perez (2 months ago)
Thank you so much Alpha M for doing these amazing guidance videos. I am going through the toughest times of my life. I have been with my girlfriend for six years and I can’t thank you enough for your advice. I am feeling depressed but this videos are helping me out so much. Keep up the amazing work!
Brandi Mckinney (2 months ago)
I have a question let’s say your insecurities are so bad at the point you think it’s a gut feeling but it really isn’t it’s just that you’re that paranoid and you trick yourself to thinking it is a gut feeling
Rishabh kumar (2 months ago)
this are exactly the mistakes i made in my first relationship!

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