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Dealing With Relationship Insecurity | 10 Tips To Handle Insecurity

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Breakup Like A Man: http://www.iamalpham.com/index.php/topics/how-to-break-up-dating-advice/ Alpha M. Confidence Course: http://aaronmarino.com/confidence-course/ Subscribe To Alpha M. https://www.youtube.com/user/AlphaMconsulting?sub_confirmation=1 My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services and Products: http://www.aaronmarino.com Alpha M. App: http://www.alphamapp.com/ My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services: http://www.aaronmarino.com Free Hairstyle E-Book: http://http://www.iamalpham.com/ezine Best Hair Product: http://www.peteandpedro.com FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/IAmAlphaM In this video men's style, grooming, fitness, relationship and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com http://www.aaronmarino.com http://www.peteandpedro.com, shares with you 10 tips for dealing with relationship insecurity. Relationships are hard enough without being super paranoid all the time. These 10 tips will help you handle your insecurity and allow you to focus on the amazing and beautiful person you have fallen in love with. Don't let your insecurities sabotage a good thing. Insecurities. We all have them whether physical, finances, material, or other. Regardless, nothing can kill a potentially great situation than relationship insecurity. We all have insecurities but managing them is a key component for a happy, healthy, and successful relationship. Aaron Marino of alpha m. presents ten tips to overcome relationship insecurity. 1. Don't judge your current relationship based on past relationship - don't make the current pay for the deeds of the past. 2. Don't confusion imagination with reality - don't read into everything. The best way to squash this is to encourage open and honest conversations from the beginning, when things are 'good'. Don't let your mind play tricks on you! 3. Stop trying to mind read 4. Once you ask, don't keep asking! - once you're there, the relationship is over from the persistent pestering. 5. Your relationship needs room to breathe - if you are constantly standing over top of the relationship, you'll smother it. You need to have your own things going on including outside interests and friends. You are individuals that came together. 6. Relationships aren't always roses and puppies - the new relationship is like walking on air. It doesn't last, however. You can't maintain that level of emotional intensity. You'll have ebbs and flows. Don't bail on the 1st sign of trouble! Keep nurturing and working, and it'll work itself out if it's supposed to. 7. Do not snoop! - if you reach that point, you'll never stop because you'll never trust them! You can misread something and turn it into a situation. 8. Go with your gut (instincts) 9. You are responsible for your happiness and only your happiness. 10. Relationships are supposed to feel good where you feel better when you're with this person.
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Hrishi Goutam (22 minutes ago)
Thats was the best ever one bro
AxiomCognoscentis (16 hours ago)
What do you do when you suck at relationships but are really good in most other aspects of life? I avidly persue leadership and self-development, and I consider myself a confident, healthy, and capable individual. I choked up the nerve to ask out this amazing girl, she said yes, and we’ve been dating for about a month. But I am surprisingly insecure about how I am doing. It’s like I lose my confidence when I think about how our relationship is. We bounce really well off of each other, I’ve known her for like 10 years so we’re close friends, but like yesterday I sent her a message and she hasn’t responded yet and I’ve been worried sick about it, despite knowing it doesn’t really matter. Our interactions are fun and awesome most times, we have a great time and it’s obvious she does like me back, but my mind just keeps persuing the idea that it won’t work. I keep trying to read her mind and second guess what I do. I’ve watched lots of videos and read articles and such, but nothing seems to really be helping me fix this.
BritishGamer (19 hours ago)
Take that in, ‘If it’s supposed to’
BritishGamer (19 hours ago)
I fucked it up Haha
EStC S (1 day ago)
I’m insecure, I just can’t help being suspicious, I lack trust I just can’t believe that he wants to be with me. We started off on shady terms but now we’re supposed to be together, but I can’t tell the difference between what’s fake in his behaviour and when it’s real.
Brock McClain (2 days ago)
insecure is normal, especially when i am dating a 9.5/10 girl! lol!
Alyssa Farias (3 days ago)
Damn I’m fucked lmao
theartofmakingart _ (3 days ago)
What do you mean boyfriend girlfriend or whatever your into.. what else is there 😂
Jr/life_ 2018 (4 days ago)
I definitely was guilty of many of those.
Kat Nana (4 days ago)
What about finding sex videos with exes on his phone 😪😳 from a year ago that he claims he doesn’t remember having! He was more mad about me deleting some of them than me finding them...... how should i feel? He let me know he deleted everything and i want proof but i want these trust issues to stop.
I Am Sam (5 days ago)
Man this help me alot
Tharindu Nirmal (5 days ago)
Thanks man.
Innis15 (6 days ago)
Fuck i did check her photos..... and i messed up badly.
Jesse Morris (7 days ago)
Thanks Bro for this.. but how will i find out my girlfriend is cheating on me if i don't snoop?
Valerie peace (7 days ago)
attractive human 😱
Crypto World (7 days ago)
so helpful, u deserve a beer,uhave helped me from a bad situation
Prince Jay (8 days ago)
What happens if you being very truthful with everything and they still accusing you with a false lie?
johnny ortiz (9 days ago)
Thank you bro.
Den Afric (9 days ago)
The little Tree example😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
sanskriti shrestha (9 days ago)
i was having a hard time in my relationship, thank you for this video! <3
dan sheppard (11 days ago)
Nothing insecure about it
dan sheppard (11 days ago)
I'm a boss you live on my terms bitch or on to the next one
Sasha Chapman (11 days ago)
Not even halfway through the video and I'm thinking "Crap, I've already screwed up"
Marsh atx (11 days ago)
I know this is years old but i need some advice Ok so I have a girlfriend but she has a boy bestfriend. She's starting to talk like him and tells him things she wont tell me....ooof what do I do?
Devansh Singh (11 days ago)
Thanks Alpha...Thanks a lot buddy😉
Shau Khan (15 days ago)
I'm one very very very jealous wife .I don't know what to do I'm just so tired of this habit
Kyle Warren (15 days ago)
Thank you made me feel better.🤗 Was wondering on what you think of being too nice because I am told I am too nice and I'm scared it's going to ruin my relationship.😔
Drew Field (15 days ago)
I agree with every single one of these
Matthew Lawrence (16 days ago)
I feel like I truly did sabotage my last relationship and it kills me everyday because I feel like I'll never find another relationship that's as meaningful as the one I ruined...
The Cold Canadian Ball (17 days ago)
I've been getting these insecure feelings after feeling judged about some sexual experience I have, being introduced to fetlife and watching all the guys like her pictures she posts (their not explicit nude pics), and guys she friend requests, and one time she had to talk to her abusive ex about fixing a computer (I was there monitoring, idk why but I wish I haven't). I HATE IT. I hate feeling insecure. I love being the funny, charismatic and mind free guy I use to be. I hate thinking she is cheating on. I don't want to be that paranoid partner in the relationship. I want to be open minded and try not to think the worst case scenarios out of everything. I have talked to my gf about how I feel and my only fear and she seemed understanding and helpful. But I fear she'll leave me cause I've exposed my "insecurities" and "weakness". I hate feeling like this! I just hate it!
Efren Carrillo Mejia (18 days ago)
Holly fuck bro, you have really good advice. I'm starting a new relationship and kinds of things pop in my mind for being insecure!! Thank you so mucho
Margaret Batson (18 days ago)
You only feel insecure when ones partner makes you feel that way. If your partner values you and tries to make you happy and truly loves you then there would be no insecurities in the relationship. These are facts and the honest truth .
moses siphe gaba (23 days ago)
My german mentor once told me the secret to happiness in a relationship and its only two words "Be honest". Most of the times people are insecure because they think their partner is hiding stuffs like they do, another reason would be the history of their relationship. Being honest includes talking about your insecurities. I hope this helps. Overthinking has become a serious mental disease and its killing people in many different ways. Grow up and face the world believe in yourself and stop overthinking. LOVE is BEAUTIFUL especial when it's true not this IG love of today.
Isaiah Ornelas (24 days ago)
I wanted to help my ex girlfriend with her insecurity. She was always jealous of me watching porn and accused me of cheating when I went out with my guy friends multiple times.she would even get jealous if I went with family and when id go with friends she would repeatedly call me until i picked up. I was so sad and didn't want to give her up but she broke up with me because she didn't want of work on her insecurities. We were together for almost 3 years and after the first week of our break up (it's been two weeks) she already had a new boyfriend... Was I wrong.. I wanted to help her.. I feel bad.. I miss her alot. Anybody's advice would be helpful.
Dave Damn (25 days ago)
I doged a bullet thanks to this Video, i´m so glad u did this one dude !
Ayub Ali (26 days ago)
Fuck girls friend
mojo 0676 (27 days ago)
Alpha.yor are helping me, 👌
Daniel Hdz (30 days ago)
This video is really helpful, thanks for the great video.
Joseph Edu Ampo (30 days ago)
ur geneus..ty so much
Reece Paine (1 month ago)
Why am I like this I need to stop being like this
Xaviar Lair (1 month ago)
I feel attacked! Damn. I shouldn't have watched this stoned. =/ lol
Prateek Sain (1 month ago)
Why didn't i find this video earlier....
Deborah De La Rosa (1 month ago)
I am a stupid woman and you just described me in all these scenarios. I will never be happy
Shubham Uttvani (1 month ago)
That’s what you call motivation (real one )👍🏻👌🏻 Thanks 🙏🏻 @alpha m.
Apple :3 (1 month ago)
When I really want to be someone’s friend or be in a relationship with someone, I get so insecure that I feel like I’m gonna do something or say something to that person that will make them hate me. I don’t know why I’m like this. I feel like I’m the only one that’s like this, please tell me if you do this too...
zinger boy (1 month ago)
Girls will never understand this !!
zinger boy (1 month ago)
Really u r an alpha male U been there where we are now !! N u know how to get hold of things N overcome the shits
Valeria Gasca (1 month ago)
why did he just describe my boyfriend ;(
Emma Oneill (1 month ago)
I think my insecurities ruined my last relationship and my ex had some trust issues too plus he was a two faced asshole
GH0ST (1 month ago)
I BET 5K ..... AARON WONT REPLY TO THIS COMMENT 😂
7033Joe (1 month ago)
*before new relationship* "Don't judge your current relationship to your past relationship. Just because he/she cheated on you." *relationship ends* "ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!!!!!"
bakxxc (1 month ago)
sighh
Ritaja Kar (1 month ago)
WOW! This is literally me. I couldn’t have found a better video at this point, literally! Also this guy has got some sense of humor 😂😂😂😂
Sugerlump 36 (1 month ago)
Tip 4 is totally me 😂😂
Nickdai2013 (1 month ago)
I am guilty of a lot of these and I think it’s because of these things that our Has come down to tip 10. do you think that if I put a stop to these tendencies that our relationship could be revived?
Jack Borne (1 month ago)
im terrified that ive gone too far... yes i have snooped and i feel like shit for it. i trust, i love her, i dont want to lose her, i want to be better. How can i start to repair myself for the better so i can be the man i want to be for her
Prachi Mishra (1 month ago)
♥️ Thank you
Kisep (1 month ago)
Oh shittttt I did this
Sheldon Cruz (1 month ago)
I always come back to this video whenever I feel insecure
SSJDog (1 month ago)
This video is old but if you have true suspicions that she might be cheating how do you find out without snooping? And what if she lies when you ask her, where do you go from there? Especially if you might have caught her in something before
Wade Jodeh (1 month ago)
I was surprised how many of these advice tips actually applied to me Great Video!
javy sto (1 month ago)
😂 I’m that freaky paranoid guy!!
Opzzkilla (1 month ago)
This is why I fucking love you
Christopher Stevens (1 month ago)
666k views
CupNoodleKitty (1 month ago)
Soooooooo guilty of no 4 😭
Gregory KEROR Davis (1 month ago)
Dude ur that dude 👍🏿
Abi Saunders (1 month ago)
If I have been doing this all recently because of stress, does that mean it's doomed and over. I'm actively going to change it and make things better! But I won't see him to this weekend. Just don't want to give up and it be over already
Lori Owens (1 month ago)
When he tells u t stay off.of your phone or you'll go crazy, I'm like is that all u got I'll go crazy. I'm.already crazy but it's okay for u to be a Haas on my wifi? Lol
Zech Esterhuizen (1 month ago)
Thank you Alpha! Really gave me an open mind over my relationship! No more paranoid!
Ramesh Dasam (1 month ago)
How many breakups U had bro
GameR Legend (1 month ago)
Thanks broo you are awesome
John Franklin (1 month ago)
Actually one of the best Alpha M videos I’ve ever seen. Great points! Thanks a ton.
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DarthStalkers (1 month ago)
The way you explain things is perfect, and the humour you use to do it makes me laugh at myself for how silly I’ve been thinking. Bit hard when your partner feels like the best thing that’s ever happened to you, but when it’s so good you start thinking of what can go wrong. This video helped me out so much. Thank you
Ted Kistler (1 month ago)
fuck, I do most of these things 😓
Amanda Johnson (1 month ago)
I literally do all of this stuff as a girlfriend. Thankyou for this advice. I’m going to use it!
Am Ka (1 month ago)
Amazingly explained .. Thank you brother you are awesome!!
Vexus Exploits (1 month ago)
Thank you so fucking much, I was thinking the first one. my ex was a cheating mother fucker but you know plus I always read into things to much
Tracey Owen Hughes (1 month ago)
I am in LOVE with SOMEONE great. He is crazy insecure and has a lot of issues due,to DRAMA from past relationship that came b4 me. Now I am totally turned off and Done
Endy M (1 month ago)
I know for me I wouldn't feel insecure in my relationship if I got positive feed back on the occasion. And good validation on how things are going
Lazar Radinovic (1 month ago)
yo i have a question So basically I knew this girl for like a month and we were such good friends and then we fell in love and we ,,hooked up" but i realised that its so awkward in the relationship, we weren't talking that much and when we had to kiss, hug or anything else it was so awkward i would wanna fucking die Do you guys have any advice about this Im really desperate
Infernoblazer (1 month ago)
Great video man, keep it up, your helped me a lot
Jason Davies (1 month ago)
Talk about relationships and money how it bad and good
Jasmin Adrian (1 month ago)
So there's no hope of trusting someone if you already start snooping on them? That's the saddest thing I've ever heard
Tenacious Deb (1 month ago)
I love your laughter and enthusiasm
Just Monika. (1 month ago)
My boyfriend’s instagram is still brimming with old, doting posts of/about his exes. It makes me uncomfortable, but I’d never ask him to take it down. I don’t know. :( I try not to look at them, but it makes my heart fucking wrench.
El Arez (2 months ago)
I wish my girlfriend watch this is hard to deal with her insecurity is devastating
OptimusPrime338 (2 months ago)
Man, You are awesome!!!
Shadexa (2 months ago)
thanks alpha, you helped me today!
jmacsss (2 months ago)
I have definitely snooped. Last one caused my divorce. Of course, she was cheating with her ex and there were pictures, but that means there was a much deeper issues. Im very insecure in relationships now. Im having a really hard time with it. Idk how to trust people now with Facebook and texting...cheating is too easy
sristi sen (2 months ago)
Oops. What to do if you've already gone too far with the snooping ? How to stop ??
Ferny7389 (2 months ago)
Nice video
Dennis Pena (2 months ago)
Why does it feel like he's shouting into my ear...? I feel peace just pausing the video half-way.
Prajatha Prabhakar (2 months ago)
Helped me allot Great video 👍
ObamaBinLaden (2 months ago)
alpha you are one bad ass mofo.. thanks for all your advice man
Abhay Pratap (2 months ago)
This one helped me the most.. Thanks alpha
Invidel (2 months ago)
I'm gonna keep coming back to this video whenever i start to feel insecure. Helpful video!
Max Rubert (2 months ago)
Used to think this guy was a cocky douche. Then I actually watched his different videos, he's very real. I don't even watch it for the advice really, just fascinated ig
Daniel Cordoba (2 months ago)
Thank you.
Michael Evans (2 months ago)
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