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Dealing With Relationship Insecurity | 10 Tips To Handle Insecurity

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Breakup Like A Man: http://www.iamalpham.com/index.php/topics/how-to-break-up-dating-advice/ Alpha M. Confidence Course: http://aaronmarino.com/confidence-course/ Subscribe To Alpha M. https://www.youtube.com/user/AlphaMconsulting?sub_confirmation=1 My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services and Products: http://www.aaronmarino.com Alpha M. App: http://www.alphamapp.com/ My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services: http://www.aaronmarino.com Free Hairstyle E-Book: http://http://www.iamalpham.com/ezine Best Hair Product: http://www.peteandpedro.com FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/IAmAlphaM In this video men's style, grooming, fitness, relationship and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com http://www.aaronmarino.com http://www.peteandpedro.com, shares with you 10 tips for dealing with relationship insecurity. Relationships are hard enough without being super paranoid all the time. These 10 tips will help you handle your insecurity and allow you to focus on the amazing and beautiful person you have fallen in love with. Don't let your insecurities sabotage a good thing. Insecurities. We all have them whether physical, finances, material, or other. Regardless, nothing can kill a potentially great situation than relationship insecurity. We all have insecurities but managing them is a key component for a happy, healthy, and successful relationship. Aaron Marino of alpha m. presents ten tips to overcome relationship insecurity. 1. Don't judge your current relationship based on past relationship - don't make the current pay for the deeds of the past. 2. Don't confusion imagination with reality - don't read into everything. The best way to squash this is to encourage open and honest conversations from the beginning, when things are 'good'. Don't let your mind play tricks on you! 3. Stop trying to mind read 4. Once you ask, don't keep asking! - once you're there, the relationship is over from the persistent pestering. 5. Your relationship needs room to breathe - if you are constantly standing over top of the relationship, you'll smother it. You need to have your own things going on including outside interests and friends. You are individuals that came together. 6. Relationships aren't always roses and puppies - the new relationship is like walking on air. It doesn't last, however. You can't maintain that level of emotional intensity. You'll have ebbs and flows. Don't bail on the 1st sign of trouble! Keep nurturing and working, and it'll work itself out if it's supposed to. 7. Do not snoop! - if you reach that point, you'll never stop because you'll never trust them! You can misread something and turn it into a situation. 8. Go with your gut (instincts) 9. You are responsible for your happiness and only your happiness. 10. Relationships are supposed to feel good where you feel better when you're with this person.
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sixflagsfan 4life (6 hours ago)
Is it bad when your gf takes picture with your friend but now u and always that one friend ?
DoubleHook G (13 hours ago)
Snoop with permission
Irene (1 day ago)
My fiancé and I use each other's phones and computers all the time, tends to be we pick up whichever gadget is handy to look up info on the web. This works because we know each other's friends, neither of us has anything to hide and we fully trust and tell each other everything, yet we're resepectful of each other's right to have private conversations with friends and family. Conversely, I think it's pretty suspicious if someone doesn't let their phone or laptop out of their sight and flips out if you go near it.
Rijob Mhd (1 day ago)
Aaron... thank you... but I need to ask you something real important...? What if the person is actually going behind your back and doing stuff...? What if all the doubts that we have is TRUE..? Then we’ll be wasting time while allowing the person to exploit you and finally hurt you... am I right...?
Amanda Perez (2 days ago)
I love his charisma! Enjoyed watching this, he is so funny and wise. May Jesus Christ bless him and keep using him to help us :)
Andrew Cruz (2 days ago)
Is it normal to get jealous easily , if a girl you like who likes you back. Has Snapchat contacts like "My Sweet Prince" and "Cute Boy " saved on her phone even tho any if them aren't her boyfriend? I need a little enlightenment
Longwee (4 days ago)
You know, these tips sound simple and work really great but not everybody understand the great meaning behind each tips . Just want to share this thought:)
Carolin Schäfer (5 days ago)
Tip No 9: THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH! Don't get me wrong, but sooooooo many men search for their luck in their (female) partners! Just DON'T! That's unhealthy and gives away a responsibility you, and ONLY you, have to fulfill! Find your own luck, because your partner only can make you happier, but not happy.
Narc. (5 days ago)
fuck, i failed #1 smh
Reepz fpv (5 days ago)
Probably one of your best videos! Lots of helpful points and tips that I needed to hear. Thanks again for the videos
Neil 15 (5 days ago)
Wow, this made my day. I just had a crappy and toxic day and it was super awkward when my ex-crush and I were grouped in class. But this one, this changed the tide. Now I feel like I can go back out there with a brave face. Awesome vid +alpham
Fu William (5 days ago)
Yep. He is god damn right!
RotaryBeast24 (6 days ago)
This video legit helped me so much, this has made me feel great about myself aswell as all of your other video’s, thankyou for being the support and holding the knowledge to help me through my insecure, sad little life
Summat Wrong (6 days ago)
God I wish I'd seen this video half a year ago
Andes (7 days ago)
things ive learned to make a relationship be perfect is, good communication, trust, similar comfort levels, and enjoying each others company... relationship anxiety is 100% normal and every relationship has its ups, downs, and loops
Nate Byars (7 days ago)
I can read minds and will prove it. I know what your thinking right now. You're thinking I can't read minds! Thanks for the video really can relate to someone who is honest like you.
Nikola Peric (8 days ago)
Deep breath helped me ☺️
Beeni Bee (8 days ago)
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Trol (9 days ago)
I’ve screwed up my relationship with my ex by being to insecure. She called me out on it saying I’m not good enough and not manly enough, shit. I couldn’t trust her because she lied to me badly at the start of the relationship.
Ashish Sharma (10 days ago)
Thank-you 💛
Jacob Bell (10 days ago)
Hey man do you have audio files?
Doi Bing (10 days ago)
6:07 Too late and extremely accurate.
New America Tow Guy (10 days ago)
I wasted 10 years with my ex... started dating another woman and guess what... 2 months into our relationship she pulled the same shit my ex did. Cheating, lying, and mental and emotional abuse.
steve leon (11 days ago)
Man u are the best.. tq for tips
Plug Enri (11 days ago)
I snooped and got my feelings hurt ):
Warfire (11 days ago)
I’m definitely the over thinking type, paranoid non stop. Got into a relationship that I’m shit scared of fucking up, and this video really helped and calmed me down. Definitely a good video.
Joey Angel (12 days ago)
im crying so much after watching this
Sugerlump 36 (13 days ago)
2:10 too late buddy ... too late I have that every time I call a friend or text them and if they don't put an emoji In I'm like " AAAAAA I DID SOMETHING TO ANNOY THIS PERSON DX" me every time;-;
KeyshonTv (13 days ago)
im goin crazy rn
danoisyboy (14 days ago)
Mate I juststarted a new relationship and I tust her 150% but cuz my ex treated me like crap I doubtedmy feelings for even though I know I love her but this vid has made me get over those feelings and go from being happy to spectacular so thanm you so so much mate best content maker ever !!!!!!
Pov Sunby (14 days ago)
What if I already started doing the Snooping?😅
MikeyButane (14 days ago)
I want to share this list with my partner in my current relationship. I want him to know that I'm working on my issues (by following advice such as yours). I have a strong need to let him know what I'm working on. My instinct is to start changing my thoughts and actions, and not tell him that I'm working on it. Should I shut up and try on the advice? If I share the list you offer (with him) am I risking shining a glaring spotlight on my insecurities?
Roflawlsauce Yo (19 days ago)
You’re so right dude! Everything you said just turned back on me, I know I have insecurities I wish I didnt and from the things you said I’ve already made mistakes but I’ll be damned if I don’t turn it around. Thank you a ton
TheOtherSide (20 days ago)
I'm bad at socializing...
Oscar Perez (20 days ago)
Thank you so much Alpha M for doing these amazing guidance videos. I am going through the toughest times of my life. I have been with my girlfriend for six years and I can’t thank you enough for your advice. I am feeling depressed but this videos are helping me out so much. Keep up the amazing work!
Brandi Mckinney (20 days ago)
I have a question let’s say your insecurities are so bad at the point you think it’s a gut feeling but it really isn’t it’s just that you’re that paranoid and you trick yourself to thinking it is a gut feeling
Rishabh kumar (20 days ago)
this are exactly the mistakes i made in my first relationship!
S ad (21 days ago)
I already started snoooping are you sure I cant stop? I really feel bad about it but im worried all the time😔
rosie g. (21 days ago)
Slap me in the face, thank you anyway!😭😭
makaveli mclean (22 days ago)
im guilty s fuck everything ur saying is me no im on my second try paying for it ..guys listen to this man .she moved out moved back in then moved out again maybe for good this time over the same reason..just life,but ive learned one thing from this that i was the fucking problem.love wil lmake you do some crazy ass shit ..the power of love can be too strong then matures into obsession
MrVersitile34 (22 days ago)
Let me get this straight you're supposed to sit around and let the hoe do hoe shit and then when you find out she cheating from someone else, just take it on the chin ? Yeah that's a negative lmao...she better hope none of her friends and family find me sexually attractive SIMPLE 🙂
Marry chris Lara (22 days ago)
I am this,, 1month ago we have an argument about this,,, really I have really something on my mind like I'm ganna go crazy coz he said he talk with the girl in the restaurant and hide it from me because he don't want me to get mad,,, but choosing talking to that girl than me in his break time make me feel really insecure specially when he said that they talked about shitty things and the girl hitting on her,,, I really get mad caused I'm truly devoted to him,,, I'm not talking other guy,, and become mean cause I don't want other guy to be closed to me but,, what he did is annoying,, we almost break up but I realize can't live without him,,, and I need him,, But I almost cut all my hair out coz he said there talk about shitty things,, for me its about sex in my ears,,,
Mugetz (23 days ago)
Gotta disagree with point 10 and 100% agree with point 1! In my first relationship I started having serious hyperventilation and hid it from my partner to the point where I would choke or even pass out not knowing the reason for it to happen, doctor said I was in perfect condition. I'm physically fit like (hit the gym 4-5 a week and run also). After a while I found out it was all emotional issues like small insecurities, which I did not even realize myself, but they where there like a trigger in the back of my head. This even caused me issues with that partner to the point she thought I was ignoring her at times, in reality I felt like I was going to die at that moment and tried to hide it, heck there were even points where i simply could not speak for hours, because the attacks where that bad. When I started use point 1 communicating openly I eventually found the problem with my partners help and it instantly went away. After this was all said and done, I sure as hell was glad was glad that I did stick around at that time. This showed me that open and honest communication is the most important key in a relationship to build a solid foundation of trust in each other.
saved (23 days ago)
I think I broke all these rules
nelson sanasam (23 days ago)
Nailed it Bro 😂
yo yo (24 days ago)
I feel like I just got roasted 🔥😅
Emily Mendoza (25 days ago)
Is it insecure if she’s always texting someone when she’s with me.
awale khing (25 days ago)
Nice video. U said everything about insecurity issues. Thank you
K ajay Nair (26 days ago)
Thank you
Casa Blanca (27 days ago)
My insecurities keep me alert but don’t control my behaviors 👌🏽💯
BronzeBobCat (28 days ago)
I lost my girl because of all of these
Leigh Peel (29 days ago)
Awesome tips! Thank you sir.
Shelley-Anne Omar (30 days ago)
This advice is for both men AND women
eminem slim shady (30 days ago)
yo sometimes i tend to overthink about stuff which isnt there but it keeps eating my head and then im in a war with myself and i myself dont know what to do these tips are amazing mahn thanks a lot...... if anyone who can help me in my situation please reply
Malik umar Sajjad (1 month ago)
I really needed those tips😅
joseph harry (1 month ago)
I’m subscribing.
joseph harry (1 month ago)
I literally hated the video because of your YouTube name but I loved the way you approached me as a person and I felt super secure thank you so much, it’s really really refreshing to see someone like you (really good looking) have some of the problems I have
Fake Name (1 month ago)
I’m with my first girlfriend and I’ve already broken some of these rules
abhishek sharma (1 month ago)
Can you make a video on how to make your girlfriend comfortable with you
Prescribed Oxycodone (1 month ago)
I need a slap on the face.
CJLinOHIO (1 month ago)
Great video ! thank you for posting.
thepudding king (1 month ago)
My god thank you alpha this video has really helped me thank you my guy.
David Stojadinovic (1 month ago)
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Israel Ramirez (1 month ago)
My girlfriend and I are having a break from each other, mostly because i overthought and created a problem between us. There’s a lot more to the story than just “it’s my fault”, but we both agreed we need the time to focus on our own personal issues. I will watch this video every day, until I learn to cope with my overthinking and insecurities. I will get through this. I will post an update as soon as I can, and I hope I better myself. 💪
nate johnson (1 month ago)
This is great stuff man! Spot on 100 percent. Thank you for this vid. Sub!
Asa Jake (1 month ago)
AYYYE I HAVE POINTY EARS LMAO
jamal yasin (1 month ago)
bro i tend to have it a lot and honestly i am tired off it but it feels pretty good after watching ur videos
Jovany Boticceli (1 month ago)
Your funny lol But good points
Teresa Huang (1 month ago)
This is so true... every tip is on point and really helps. I am struggling with insecurity, not for relationship but for work. The same concept applies though :). I’m stressing on little things at work and constantly doubting myself, which makes me really unhappy and ruining my performance. Thanks for reminding me to let go and view things in different perspectives.
Ryan Better (1 month ago)
Don't chase women.
Great advice man. Snooping is terrible!
GriffinGTR (1 month ago)
I may be the most insecure person ever, I break all 10 of your bullet points, I will work on all 10 as well as lose weight, I lost 20 lbs so far and feeling so much better, Thank You for your help
Cretkensigh (1 month ago)
hey, ive been having these exact feelinga lately. my relationship is about two and half years but lately ive been feeling like we are missing something. started with almost no talking. we sit on our phones and barely speak aword to each other. and its been like 2 weeks without any sex, sure we cuddle but its gettibg to that point were i want to ask why. but asking puts power into a situation were i dont want power to be. so yeah. my insercurity is crewping up and i feel like im lacking the strength to fight it off?? any advice? i dont want to be seen as a pussy or beta what ever all these terms are actually quite new to me having only read about them this year. so do i make an issue out of nothing?? or wait till im being cucked....cus thats how im feeling
RyGil91 (1 month ago)
Hah! @snooping! I’m guilty of doing that and I’ve seen things that I shouldn’t have seen from past text messages before meeting me. That’ll happen also, you’ll see things you shouldn’t have which brings about a whole array of feelings. I have sincerely apologized and still in the relationship. We still love each other.
Mega4115 (1 month ago)
Dude sounds like Todd Howard
Bbenzow (1 month ago)
Thank you, you're the man.
Ya Boy Shadow (1 month ago)
im mad jealous over a lot of things, i dont say them all out loud, but im trying to fix myself so i dont fuck things up
Wennie Sasotona (1 month ago)
You need to check her phone! This is sick, if y'all are planning to be a family you gotta make sure she aint cheat
bud row (1 month ago)
Great video. Thanks
Stephanie Fraselle (1 month ago)
Ohhh this guy is fabulous, he makes me laugh so much , great attitude. He lightens everything up. This video has definitely helped me to chill and let it flow. Thankyou.x
Jordi De bruijn (1 month ago)
Think im screwed then 😂 gonna use some tips trying to let her breathe im always overworied about stuff realy like this lady and she rocks my world but im freaking out BIGTIME. good video man keep em ☝✌
Jason Meyer (1 month ago)
So if we're great friends and shes in to someone else how do i ignore it and be greatful enough that we're friends?
Randy (1 month ago)
Thank you for making this video. I was really upset tonight and my boyfriend went to bed upset and hurt by my insecurity issues. I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s gone through this. Sometimes it feels like I am, and it makes me feel really stupid and crazy. It’s nice to see you speak so honestly about this. Thank you again!
Gasmask IV (1 month ago)
Trust your gut
leonel maldonado (1 month ago)
First video that popped up when i searched on dealing with jealousy.All of these points are very true and useful.Thank you!Now it’s time to apply these to my life.God bless
sen sebz (1 month ago)
how the hell you know all these things bro..I mean u r so cool @alpha.m
ThirdG (1 month ago)
Thanks for this video it rly helped
phiwe mngadi (1 month ago)
I am so shocked reading these comments that so many men have insecurities. My boyfriend has but tries to hide it....but has mentioned not being good enough for me. And I feel unsecured about his phone...omg🙁
Angel Huertazuela (1 month ago)
U deserve a subscribe... U full of points here thanks so much I will put all this in my mind to have more strong relationship after infidelity issues I have from my hubby
donald dallas (1 month ago)
How to keep your kool when having sex with a new girl with out being nervous and Over thinking
WhiteWolff 77 (1 month ago)
THANK YOUUUUUUU !!!!!!!!!
Jon T (1 month ago)
ok
Bisma (1 month ago)
I wish I watched this video before I did everything on this list.. hehe uh oh.
DonDrazticz (1 month ago)
Hey guys, i’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and she’s a beautiful girl with a big heart. I still love her but realised that i’ve become totally insecure. And heres why; i’ve caught her several times speaking to other boys, not her cheating but just inviting the conversations and entertaining it. Made me feel less of a man because i would of never expected it! I thought she only had that energy towards me. After that i’ve lost a-lot of confidence and self esteem. We both love each-other and i’ve let go of the past but for some reason i still feel insecure. How can i learn to overcome this and better the relationship?
Cyan Aki (1 month ago)
You are right, my exboyfriend just told me he had new gf and im happy for that and i too had a new relationship but his gf keeps calling me a bitch because we talked not romantically and sexually we talked because we havent seen each other for months
Brandon Sheakley-Ward (1 month ago)
Solid straight forward I like the energy you have as well. I was cheated on many times and still loved this woman. This is my current conflict. Great video man!! Cheers First step is communication. I agree, she and I are really focused on talking and I am now open to talk about it. She is truly a gem indeed.
CanadianBoardCrew (1 month ago)
This is the most true advice I’ve ever gotten
Owen Martinez (1 month ago)
I get such a breath of relief rewatching this video thank you so much!
mike gunthner (2 months ago)
Penpals relationship wants to wait to meet!

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