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Her Sexual Past Is Not Your Business

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Coach Corey Wayne discusses why you should not ask women about men they have slept with in the past nor should you bring it up continuously when you are a couple because it will make you look weak and insecure which will lead to women rejecting you. Click the link below to make a donation via PayPal to support my work: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_donations&business=corey@understandingrelationships.com&currency_code=USD&item_name=UnderstandingRelationships.com Click the link below to book a phone coaching session with me personally: http://www.understandingrelationships.com/products Click the link below to get my Kindle eBook: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004QOBAPK/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B004QOBAPK&linkCode=as2&tag=understand0d4-20 Click the link below to read my FREE self-help articles: http://www.understandingrelationships.com/ From my heart to yours, Corey Wayne
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Bandile Nkosi (1 month ago)
This guys a hypocrite your videos are constantly telling men what they need to change about themselves in order to seen as "quality alpha males" or "quality men" but a woman can be whoever she wants and do whatever she wants and if the man has a problem with that he needs to check himself or get over himself. My guy your full of shit
WhathehadasSole (15 days ago)
Bandile Nkosi well....logically, there's nothing men can do that can change women. All we can do is work on yourself and if there's a woman that fits in YOUR life, get with her. If not, just move on
Hip Rocker (1 month ago)
Just my thoughts
truth seeker (1 month ago)
past does matter big time Corey for the long term absolutely
honsville (5 months ago)
A little weak bitch.....hahahahaha. that's so funny yet so true.
Johnny Boy (5 months ago)
my girlfriends (23) me (26)I'm no more innocent than she is. I've had more partners but she had a 3 sum 2 girls 1 guy, and she knowing let a guy sleep with her twice while he had a girlfriend. she had been a loyal woman to a guy for 5 years and he continuously cheated on her and she never cheated on him. After the break up she was in a dark place and did things she said she regrets like hooking up with a taken man and having a bad 3 sum experience. It bugs me because the dude was her brother in laws half brother and he may be around in the future (the guy who has the gf). She is very loving and sweet to me, she always supports me and does things for me no other woman has done before, I usually focus on my goals and get back on track. Since I learned about her hooking up with a taken man I feel like she might cheat on me even tho she has no record of being a cheater. maybe she finally let that dude sleep with her because she was hurt by what her boyfriend did and she just wanted to be on the other side of the picture for once, however she learned quickly after sobering up and thinking about it that it wasn't who she wanted to be. It just fucking hurts me man, you think someone's perfect and they seem so innocent. You must realize everyone is at least slightly flawed. I'm no better than her I instigated a women to break up with her man of 12 years just so I could sleep with her. I've had sex with a drunk foreign exchange student who wasn't really coherent. I fucked my ex as soon as she got with her new boyfriend. I am beyond perfect so I need to stop judging and man up and realize I don't meet my own expectations so why should she always meet mine? especially since it was before me. I love her and I just found out about her past yesterday so it's fresh but I'm getting through it with logical thinking and manning up (confidence). I told her I thank her for trusting me and I'm going to do my best to try and get past this feeling I'm having. I told her I won't play games or string her a long, but I don't know if i can mentally do this right now. I have had a bad up bringing and abdonment issues as well so I was already rocky to begin with. I have hooked up with a couple girls while we were together but I paid for my service(so no relationship just sex) because her sexual appetite was less than mine (or maybe I just was giving my attention else where because now she is as horny as me since I gave her my attention more in a sexual way). I have completely stopped doing that as I was becoming incapable of being with other women the more I fell in love with my gf. I'm writing my wrongs on YouTube because it's helping me clear my head (I really need a journel) lol
meatrealwishes (1 month ago)
hahahaha, I knew you would cheat. You will do it again. Many people don't realize that current partner is subconsciously programmed when they hear about a partner's past. If you tell about your past to the girlfriend you will marry at one point of your life, you will be divorced.
Maximum Achievement (5 months ago)
When Corey gets into when women need to blame sex on you, it gets SO funny! It’s one of those moments when no actually mean YES! Sex has to be the mans fault. Lol
Crypto Todd! (6 months ago)
Women who have slept with more than 10 guys, I don't care how old she is, 18 or 88, she's not worth your seed! Women become a hybrid of the men they allow in her mind, body and soul! A woman can physically handle it, but not mentally and emotionally. Check the stats on the link between female sexual history and depression, there's a video by Stefan Molenoux about it. Interesting stuff! Enough tolerating women with laundry lists of conquests - most times they lie about it out of shame, not from us men but shame of themselves for their pasts! Take the high road.
meatrealwishes (1 month ago)
Non virgin men should not be married either. They voluntarily like to be rapped by their guy friends. Majority of them literally have no way to say why they wanna lose their virginity. It is always peer pressure. Marrying them is same as becoming caregiver for senior citizens.
Megan6772 (5 months ago)
Todd W no I can't prove it, and i don't care to, bc that was never my argument, or your's...it's a shame that society evolves much quicker than our biology, so this likely has something to do with caveman days and survival mechanisms....good luck on your search for that pure woman bro. I'm sure she'll be understanding of your double standard after she asks about your past. 💁
Crypto Todd! (5 months ago)
Megan6772 Sure, you've proven your math skills are basic. But can you prove why women retain male DNA in their bodies after intercouse? Or why a man would want to mix his dna with not just her, but her past male lovers as well? I'm advising men not to settle down with or marry the more promiscuous women in society and to seek a modest/more selective woman. Women do what you want! Just don't expect a man to want to stay with you once he learns you banged his friend. It doesn't take a woman to have a new male sex partner every year to learn how to please a man in or out of bed.
qwerty asdfg (7 months ago)
lots of beta males in the comment section , telling women sluts just because they had more than 5 sexual partners in their lifetime. wtf. the 97%-ers weak bitch, get over it. the reality is, women are as sexual as men. they just dont like to open up or talk about it that much cos beta males loves to label them as whores. You weak bitches are too focused on the past instead of enjoying the present. that's not what Coach teaches.
Hip Rocker (1 month ago)
I fuck different bitches everyday and YES THEY ARE WHORES ! Wtf are you talking about worshipping a hoe? SMH A women who just wants to fuck has less value than a prostitute... Because she is doing it for free!
Graceful soul (7 months ago)
A lot of you might try asking yourselves what the last emotion you felt was other than anger or rage.
Jake Gomez (8 months ago)
Her past lovers dna are inside her brain and will effect future children, it is my business and if she says its not shes not going to be my wife. Fucking simple my future my choice
Hip Rocker (1 month ago)
Damn right
Proto Man (8 months ago)
yeah it does. same reason employers ask about my past work experience, because it matters. wtf u talkin bout hoe
Blake (29 days ago)
Proto Man exactly. the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour.
Immortal Pharaoh (8 months ago)
Proto Man exactly
John Michael (8 months ago)
My girlfriend and I recently had the "non judgemental" convo about our past and found out she had a few more partners than I have. Which for some reason bothered me but while we were friends I was beginning to put things together that she had a sad and lonely look to her. She would always post selfies on insta and all guys would comment and like it but she always claimed that she was never good enough or something then I found out that she never knew her father so I began to feel that for a long time she was filling voids or seeking too much validation from guys online and dating apps. I have NO right to judge or let it bother me but it has....even a story she told me that she met up with a guy fork online she was talking to for months and they had sex the first night they met up and that bothered me I have no idea why. But it also began to make connections as to why she is the way she is... Let me tell yu...my past sexual life wasn't innocent. I've stolen girls from guys; even wives and fiancées. I lived my single life in my 20s...but I seem to forget that she as well. She told me that she was just looking for someone or something and none of it ever worked out until we became friends for a while then now dated all year. She said nothing about me is like her past and she wants to move iut with me. But still....I should respect her path to me no matter how random, ugly, bad, or good it was. Everyone has a past and some would like to forget about it or use it as an example. I really have to get that.
Larry Jackson (5 months ago)
John Michael my is the same thing
John Rencheck (8 months ago)
John Michael this guys an idiot listen your girl grew up in chaos always searching for a daddy she never had now u come along she gets happy loving caring relationship.eventually she will screw it up because thats all she knows its not because of u its her talk to her get her into counseling and u might be the one to stop the cycle and help her more than ull ever know
Cloud Air (10 months ago)
what if she banged a guy 2 hours ago?
Cloud Air (8 months ago)
yup.. our integrity as men should be first.. not sex and relationships
Garrett Lawes (8 months ago)
Cloud Air OJ Simpson that girl
The Triggering (10 months ago)
Bad, bad advice. Statistically promiscuous women are more likely to cheat, and more likely to divorce, so yes her past definitely matters if you're looking for long term. Best to just move on and let someone else deal with that baggage.
Graceful soul (6 months ago)
I went to your link, and your link says that the access to the site cannot be resolved; it's inaccessible. Notwithstanding that, I find just those titles above to be disgusting. The first is a no-brainer, but then, it's also true that men are more likely to have STDs as their levels of non-monogamy increase. Where's that article? The second title is blatantly sexist and patriarchal, but I'm curious about how it's phrased. "...HAVE more non-marital sexual partners are less likely to have stable marriages." I think it goes without saying that if you have extra partners while married, you're less likely to be in a stable marriage, but you probably wouldn't be having those extra partners if your marriage were stable or happy in the first place. Your point was not whether this is going on while married though, your point is that a woman's marriage will be less stable if she's EVER had over some certain random number of partners, even if she's been married and monogamous for 20 years. It's true that on the Internet, you can find anything to support pretty much any point on Earth, but you have to be willing to see things that don't affirm yoru worldview to know if you're examining and interpreting the information correctly.
Robert Johnson (6 months ago)
Graceful soul "The truth is, there are absolutely no statistics on what you mention." Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995. https://i.imgur.com/HICfWtu.jpg • Women Who Have More Non-Marital Sexual Partners Are More Likely to Be Infected with Sexually Transmitted Diseases • Women Who Have More Non-Marital Sexual Partners Are Less Likely to Have Stable Marriages • Women Who Have More Non-Marital Sexual Partners Are Less Likely to Be Happy • Women Who Have More Non-Marital Sexual Partners Are More Likely to Be Depressed
Graceful soul (8 months ago)
The truth is, there are absolutely no statistics on what you mention. Some people feel like their opinions are more strongly expressed if they stick "statistically," "scientifically," or "fact/factually" somewhere in their statements.
Random Blip (8 months ago)
To add, promiscuous women (statistically) also make poor mothers. Any man who ignores the collective wisdom that came up with the saying "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife" is doing so at his own peril. For facts/stat's, Stefan Molyneux's video 'The Truth About Sex' covers the subject in detail.
Peter Harper (1 year ago)
Did she get an A in the class?
GoogleLeviticus19-29 (1 year ago)
Just read my username, then click on the link. That's the real truth you won't ever hear!
The Triggering (10 months ago)
A GREAT Bible verse. Too many weak men raising their daughters to be sluts, or blindly accepting their girlfriend's whorish past - society falls as a result. Men must understand that a woman's slutty past is very destructive to the stability of marriage and the family. Just look at the marriage stability rate for virgins vs sluts - Night and Day. Bible got it right...Again
Mark Dalton (1 year ago)
Thanx soo much that's for me!!!!
DrewYetti (1 year ago)
Those who lie about their sexual past shows a sign of dishonesty and deception. This is because they know deep down their sexual past gives an indication on what type of person they will be when deciding to enter a committed and serious relationship. Sounds to me your want men to accept women for who they are and at the same time, you want men to work hard to meet s woman's standards.
BrokenMegaMan (1 year ago)
My girl and I where planning on moving in together then she played the im young and wanna live card. She just got out of a 6 year relationship with her 2 kids dad. She made all the plans for me to come there and be with her. We have been on and off for ten years have had sex and even spent weekends together. She told me she wanted to fuck her coworkers but didnt because she knew it would hurt me. 3 days later while celebrating my moms birthday she told me she had got drunk with her boss and had sex. I flipped and she got scared and ran off. Will no contact work or have i fucked up for good? Her boss has a gf and she says she doesn't seem him in that way she doesn't want a relationship and wants to work on herself all of that. Will no contact even work or have i lost her for good? :( This girl has had me in a mental mind fuck for ten years. She Told me if she ever had sex with anyone else she would let me know or ask me first. Then she use to cock block me and get jealous when i use to have ex's or other girls come into the picture. So i never persued other girls because i thought she was being exclusive. She was making plans for me to move in and even the layout of her kids bedroom. This girl has ripped my mind out.
Conor Mullan (9 months ago)
She is not relationship material, man. As tough as it is, you need to cut her off. If she'd like to be a fuck buddy or you're cool with an open relationship then do that. But a happy, trusting, monogamous relationship with her is impossible now. It's shit man but you'll feel a million times better soon, especially when you start dating multiple women again. Never forget that a woman has to earn you.
The Triggering (10 months ago)
First, she's a single mom, just stay the hell away from single mom's. Second, you didn't f*ck up, she did. Move on and be trhilled you got out of that situation, rather than having to raise some slut's thug spawn.
Pancake Day (1 year ago)
BrokenMegaMan - Don't know what your situation is now, but man that was a weak comment (no offence) No contact isn't a technique. You just walk away and never look back if a girl isnt giving you what you want. It's about self respect.
Gilbert Camacho (2 years ago)
good job..I like that get over it...it was none of your fucking business..lol!
Emon Clayton (2 years ago)
Corey I'm 17, I'm a virgin I live in a community were all of the people I grew up with lost their virginity. Now my mom and Dad raised me in a sheltered home were I was always a good, respectful, sweet and generous young man. Now within the past couple of months I've been dating a girl that I have known since elementary school. She's sexually experienced,and her past is seriously bothering me. It feels like every time I touch her its not special or every time I kiss her or hug her, 4 other guys have had their hands on her now She's very sweet,beautiful and smart. But this is seriously affecting me in the inside.
Im a Fox (4 months ago)
The problem is that you are focused on this one girl. Like she is "the one". You should be entertaining multiple date's and women. When you fixate on one girl, you expect her to be this perfect angel that does not wrong. Now.Im not saying go out there and be a slut, the key thing is to feel good about yourself as a desirable and powerful male who could have sex with multiple partners if he pleases. STOP fixating yourself on one girl and this thinking will change. Be strong and dominant and always keep your option wide open. This only changes when she wants to be exclusive.
Graceful soul (6 months ago)
Thank you for restoring my faith in mankind.
qwerty asdfg (7 months ago)
Jonathan Gonzalez, dude wtf? are you seriously comparing a typical highschool girl to a pornstar who fucks for a living? we dont know how many guys she dated, Emon just said she's sexually experienced, it doesnt mean she's a hoe. dont blow things out of proportion. wtf is wrong with you? the past is not equal to the present. just because you've been a serial womanizer in the past and decided to change , doesnt mean you're still that person now. that's a fuckin stupid way of thinking. you're better than this.
qwerty asdfg (7 months ago)
Emon c'mon man, don't be insecure just because you haven't had any girls. i'm 32. for guys like me who've already had a lot of sexual experiences, it doesn't bother me at all. stop being prude it won't get you anywhere. just enjoy the time being with her together - that's what matters. the past is not equal to the present. live in the present. she chose you - that's what matters. you're with her right now, not with other guys - that's what matters. look in to the positive side, she has a lot of things to teach you, not just sexually but dealing with people in general. Do what Coach does, he picks the positive on every situation cos that's where you learn and grow.
Graceful soul (7 months ago)
Here's the thing. If you didn't have the most massive narcissistic ego in the world, you might understand that I have already answered your questions. You lack the ability to hear anything that doesn't sync with your worldview. You also might understand that not all the toxic shit that comes out of your mouth is meritorious of serious consideration or anyone's time. I don't have ANYTHING else to say to you and you don't have anything to say I want to hear.
Tom Forge (4 years ago)
Thinks like the "number" and the distant past are none of your business, but the recent past and character traits are important. She lied when asked. That would be enough for me to break it off. 
Hip Rocker (1 month ago)
Numbers are important when you want to love and marry her. When you just want to spend time with her, then it doesn't really matter, of course you can marry this type too. BUT the more sexual partners a person has before marriage, the more unhappy they will be later in marriage. (Especially women tend to be more unhappy to just eat 1 sort of ice creme for the rest of her life^^) So they are almost unable to love someone. I'm not making this up, there are studies about this. IMO there are 2 sorts of marriage: 1. Love & Loyalty Marriage and 2. Spend Time together Marriage (One includes both..) And if you want love and loyalty you have to know or trust your gut what number it might be.
qwerty asdfg (7 months ago)
Tom true she lied, and for that you must thread carefully. but the main point is - the guy was butthurt cos he didnt get any punani because of his own fault trying to be fucking 'conservative' and shit, but the other guy was ALPHA enough so it didnt stop him from getting the girl eventhough he's also married. moral lesson of the story, if you're a 3% man - things like this should not bother you. the purpose of all relationship is you go out there to give. if you're a 3% man , you should not be a weak, sensitive, drama king who gets affected when someone you like had sex with another guy because #1 you're not in a relationship with her when that happened and #2 love is supposed to be fun, not full of drama. what matters is that in the end she chose you, she's with you, and willing to make it up to you. but try to be a weak bitch and it won't take long before she chooses someone else.
Graceful soul (8 months ago)
Interesting how when I challenge his authority over women, you challenge my authority. Yes, when I see a man speak in a way that stigmatizes all women, and steals any passion for life away from them, I will say something. I will also post it to let other women know that they need not subject themselves to this standard. Any and every time. I don't care if you don't like it.
Graceful soul (8 months ago)
Tom, when there are males about who think that despite having JUST arrived in a woman's life, they have a right to classify her as a "slut" based on her past enjoyment of life and other people that they cannot bother to understand, why should she not keep her past a secret? Again, it's not your business where she's been before you...only that she has a clean bill of sexual health and is willing to prove it (as should you). The thing is, we promote the idea that "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," but that's not true, is it? A man should be choosing to be with a woman or not be with her for who she is, what her soul and personality are, and what kind of connection they have, not appointing himself her judge and jury. It is basic self preservation to not want to leave the lingering abusive words of an asshole sticking to your soul long after he's left and since there are increasing numbers of men around who take the strangest comfort in judgment, it's best to keep it secure. If you can't understand that...I don't know, I think getting involved with you is risky for any woman who respects herself.
Darrenk971 (4 years ago)
I'd never date a slut NEVER!!sluts that fuck tons of dudes fine go for it ! But I'll never marry a ho
The Triggering (10 months ago)
Right on brother, can't turn a hoe into a housewife
gambino38 (5 years ago)
I LOVE IT WHEN YOU SAY " IT'S NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS" HA HA HA. YOU TOLD THIS MUTHAFUCKER STRAIGHT UP. I USED TO BE A BOUNCER IN SAN FRANCISCO NIGHTCLUB AND I TELL SOME ASSHOLE STRAIGHT UP STOP FUCKING AROUND, YOU REMIND ME OF MYSELF BACK IN THE DAYS. BETA MALES DONT HAVE BALLS.

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